Don’t Want to Use Your Mom’s Real Estate Agent?
Here’s How to Find a Real One, Not Just Someone Chasin’ a Commission
Let’s face it. You love your mom, but that agent she’s been using since the Clinton administration? Probably not the right fit for you.
Real estate has changed. You want someone who’s responsive, transparent, maybe even a little tech-savvy. Someone who actually loves what they do, who sees you as a human, not just a paycheck.
Here’s how to find a trustworthy real estate agent that gives a damn:
Skip the Referrals With Strings Attached
Just because your mom, cousin, or neighbor used “Sally from church” doesn’t mean she’s right for your goals. Ask why they liked her: was she a great negotiator? Did she communicate clearly? Or are they just trying to keep it in the family?
Pro tip: Politely decline and tell them you're doing your own research. Because you are.
Stalk Them Online (Seriously)
Check their reviews. Look at their recent listings. Scroll their social media. Are they educating their audience? Sharing insights? Or just doing the “just sold!” humblebrag with no substance?
Green flags:
Real reviews with real detail
Content that teaches, not just sells
A vibe that actually feels human
Ask Real Questions (And Expect Real Answers)
Don’t just ask, “How long have you been an agent?” Ask:
“What’s your communication style?”
“How do you handle tough negotiations?”
“Why do you do this work?”
“Do you use technology that helps you negotiation, clarify, coordinates repairs?”
The right agent will light up when talking about helping people. The wrong one will talk about how fast they can close.
Look for Passion Over Paychecks
A great agent sees this as a calling, not just a commission. They care about your experience, not just their bottom line. They tell you the hard stuff, push for what’s fair, and never make you feel like a burden.
How to spot them:
They’re present. They educate. They check in. They listen. They use technology for transparency on what your buying.
Trust Your Gut
If something feels off, it probably is. If someone makes you feel rushed, confused, or like you’re asking too many questions? Walk away. The right agent welcomes your curiosity and arms you with knowledge.
You don’t have to work with someone just because it’s the "safe" or "familiar" choice. You’re allowed to want more from your real estate experience more honesty, more communication, more support.
Find someone who’s in it because they care. Who respects your money, your goals, and your timeline. Who works Smart AF.
